Charm-the Real Feminine Mystique:
"A girl need not have perfect features nor an outstanding figure to be popular. But she should have charm. As Sir James Barrie had Maggie say in his play, What Every Woman Knows, 'If Ты have it, Ты don't need to have anything else; and if Ты don't have it, it doesn't much matter what else Ты have.'
Once Ты have acquired charm, you'll probably never lose it. Especially after Ты have discovered how much happier your life is because Ты are considered to be that charming girl down the street.
To be charming Ты need not to be any particular age, weight или height или have any specific coloring или proportions. Charm is like an essence. It is easier to recognize it in a person than to define it, although Webster's Third New International Dictionary says that charm is 'a combination of entirely attractive and delightful traits.'
Автор and scholar Havelock Ellis wrote, 'Charm is a woman's strength just as strength is a man's charm.'"
So some of Ты might have guessed as much, but I am definitely a person who is living "out of my time" in the sense that I feel like I would fit in better with a different era. That being said, I have one of those old "Charm Handbooks" from the early 1970s before American woman started throwing away all of their charm and graces out of the window. I Любовь this book, the values it teaches and the Совет it gives. Most of all, I Любовь how this book has never made me feel еще proud of femininity and what true femininity produces. I wish that charm schools were still a big deal in America, especially since they are еще needed now than they were in their time. Since this valuable wealth of knowledge has been cast away as "old-timey" instead of recognized as "tried and true", I thought I would share some of it here, for those who still care about women having grace, respecting each other and having better relations with other people. In relation to the Дисней Princesses, I have attached each DP to the attribute of charm that I think she best represents:
"Don't blame your family, circumstances или birth for what Ты are. Your personality can become the way Ты wish it to be... It is up to Ты to make the changes necessary for improvement. Changing is a part of growing, a process that began when Ты were born. It continues all your life. By giving еще thought to your attitudes, Ты can alter and redirect the course of your life.
Remember you'll only be as beautiful as the inner Ты permits. Cosmetics, clothing, and a trim figure can do wonders, but they can seldom hide a distorted inner you."
Poise: Aurora
The poised girl maintains calm when she has a difficult situation to handle. She goes about it naturally and easily and avoids nervous movements of the body. This will only serve to work to her advantage. She does not want to let her enemies know they have affected her and she doesn't want to lose her head in impulsive and irrational thoughts. Her grace will also help her lead others into being еще calm in a difficult situation.
Spirit of Adventure: Ariel
Since Ты can't always pack your bags and sail to faraway islands, begin to develop a spirit of adventure by trying new ideas, new thoughts, a new method of study, a new way of wearing your hair или even a new food! Trying new things opens up еще possibilities in your life. Ты will be able to learn еще about yourself (including what Ты like and don't like) as well as others. [This will also give Ты еще to talk about with a bigger range of diverse people.]
Sense of Humor: Anna
You'll find the person Ты enjoy being with most is the one who finds the things Ты say witty. еще important, the one who enjoys being with Ты is also someone whose wit Ты appreciate. Look for the things in life worth laughing about. If Ты take yourself too seriously and cannot laugh about simple things, this will have an effect on your later в общем и целом, общая health. You'll get extra points for telling a funny story about yourself. Remember, however, to laugh with people, not at them.
Appreciation of Beauty: жасмин & Pocahontas
Ты can hardly be charming and beautiful if Ты can't see and feel beauty. If Ты haven't thought about it, try, to appreciate the beautiful things in life. There is beauty all around- in the shape of a leaf, the changing sky, the smell of spring, или the laughter of a friend.
Be An Interesting/Interested Conversationalist: Elsa
Ты should be interesting to others. That means Ты must be able to contribute to a conversation- at a party, in groups, large или small, even on a one-to-one basis. Find out what Ты really like. Learn to talk about interests such as music, books, Фильмы или sports etc.
Spiritual Graciousness: Snow White
Spiritual graciousness is at the сердце of charm. Know and practice the courtesies of daily living. Avoid jokes at the expense of others; avoid gossip and a condemnatory attitude. Forgive those who hurt you. Показать tolerance for those who upset you. Generosity of spirit involves giving credit and praise from when they are deserved. Respect the opinions and rights of other people. Treat them the way Ты would like to be treated regardless of their station in life. The Golden Rule is as important today as ever.
Balanced Emotions: Золушка & Belle
Perhaps the hardest requirement of all is self-discipline- control of yourself and your emotions. Spontaneously Показ happiness, joy, surprise- или even annoyance when Ты are angered- is to be true to yourself. But to live happily with others, Ты also must exercise self-control. It is this balance between spontaneity of feelings and discipline или control that Ты will want to achieve.
Making Friends: Rapunzel
The charming girl is interested in virtually all [good] people and all aspects of life. She knows that almost everyone [decent] can contribute something to her life. So meet and make new friends; don't your круг of Друзья to just a few if Ты really want to grow.
Good Family Relationships & Values: Мулан & Tiana
Because we are so close to our families, we tend to lose sight of the fact that they deserve the same courtesies we give others [especially strangers]. Too often we expect our parents, siblings, etc. to give еще to us than we give to them. There should be mutual respect and understanding within family groups. If Ты don't think Ты are getting it, try giving it. It will probably be returned.
Self-Confidence: Merida
If Ты don't like yourself, if Ты don't feel your actions, habits или appearance can stand competition, или comparison, Ты lack self-confidence. If Ты don't believe in yourself, no one else will. If Ты do believe in yourself, there is almost nothing in life Ты wont be able to do.
"A girl need not have perfect features nor an outstanding figure to be popular. But she should have charm. As Sir James Barrie had Maggie say in his play, What Every Woman Knows, 'If Ты have it, Ты don't need to have anything else; and if Ты don't have it, it doesn't much matter what else Ты have.'
Once Ты have acquired charm, you'll probably never lose it. Especially after Ты have discovered how much happier your life is because Ты are considered to be that charming girl down the street.
To be charming Ты need not to be any particular age, weight или height или have any specific coloring или proportions. Charm is like an essence. It is easier to recognize it in a person than to define it, although Webster's Third New International Dictionary says that charm is 'a combination of entirely attractive and delightful traits.'
Автор and scholar Havelock Ellis wrote, 'Charm is a woman's strength just as strength is a man's charm.'"
So some of Ты might have guessed as much, but I am definitely a person who is living "out of my time" in the sense that I feel like I would fit in better with a different era. That being said, I have one of those old "Charm Handbooks" from the early 1970s before American woman started throwing away all of their charm and graces out of the window. I Любовь this book, the values it teaches and the Совет it gives. Most of all, I Любовь how this book has never made me feel еще proud of femininity and what true femininity produces. I wish that charm schools were still a big deal in America, especially since they are еще needed now than they were in their time. Since this valuable wealth of knowledge has been cast away as "old-timey" instead of recognized as "tried and true", I thought I would share some of it here, for those who still care about women having grace, respecting each other and having better relations with other people. In relation to the Дисней Princesses, I have attached each DP to the attribute of charm that I think she best represents:
"Don't blame your family, circumstances или birth for what Ты are. Your personality can become the way Ты wish it to be... It is up to Ты to make the changes necessary for improvement. Changing is a part of growing, a process that began when Ты were born. It continues all your life. By giving еще thought to your attitudes, Ты can alter and redirect the course of your life.
Remember you'll only be as beautiful as the inner Ты permits. Cosmetics, clothing, and a trim figure can do wonders, but they can seldom hide a distorted inner you."
Poise: Aurora
The poised girl maintains calm when she has a difficult situation to handle. She goes about it naturally and easily and avoids nervous movements of the body. This will only serve to work to her advantage. She does not want to let her enemies know they have affected her and she doesn't want to lose her head in impulsive and irrational thoughts. Her grace will also help her lead others into being еще calm in a difficult situation.
Spirit of Adventure: Ariel
Since Ты can't always pack your bags and sail to faraway islands, begin to develop a spirit of adventure by trying new ideas, new thoughts, a new method of study, a new way of wearing your hair или even a new food! Trying new things opens up еще possibilities in your life. Ты will be able to learn еще about yourself (including what Ты like and don't like) as well as others. [This will also give Ты еще to talk about with a bigger range of diverse people.]
Sense of Humor: Anna
You'll find the person Ты enjoy being with most is the one who finds the things Ты say witty. еще important, the one who enjoys being with Ты is also someone whose wit Ты appreciate. Look for the things in life worth laughing about. If Ты take yourself too seriously and cannot laugh about simple things, this will have an effect on your later в общем и целом, общая health. You'll get extra points for telling a funny story about yourself. Remember, however, to laugh with people, not at them.
Appreciation of Beauty: жасмин & Pocahontas
Ты can hardly be charming and beautiful if Ты can't see and feel beauty. If Ты haven't thought about it, try, to appreciate the beautiful things in life. There is beauty all around- in the shape of a leaf, the changing sky, the smell of spring, или the laughter of a friend.
Be An Interesting/Interested Conversationalist: Elsa
Ты should be interesting to others. That means Ты must be able to contribute to a conversation- at a party, in groups, large или small, even on a one-to-one basis. Find out what Ты really like. Learn to talk about interests such as music, books, Фильмы или sports etc.
Spiritual Graciousness: Snow White
Spiritual graciousness is at the сердце of charm. Know and practice the courtesies of daily living. Avoid jokes at the expense of others; avoid gossip and a condemnatory attitude. Forgive those who hurt you. Показать tolerance for those who upset you. Generosity of spirit involves giving credit and praise from when they are deserved. Respect the opinions and rights of other people. Treat them the way Ты would like to be treated regardless of their station in life. The Golden Rule is as important today as ever.
Balanced Emotions: Золушка & Belle
Perhaps the hardest requirement of all is self-discipline- control of yourself and your emotions. Spontaneously Показ happiness, joy, surprise- или even annoyance when Ты are angered- is to be true to yourself. But to live happily with others, Ты also must exercise self-control. It is this balance between spontaneity of feelings and discipline или control that Ты will want to achieve.
Making Friends: Rapunzel
The charming girl is interested in virtually all [good] people and all aspects of life. She knows that almost everyone [decent] can contribute something to her life. So meet and make new friends; don't your круг of Друзья to just a few if Ты really want to grow.
Good Family Relationships & Values: Мулан & Tiana
Because we are so close to our families, we tend to lose sight of the fact that they deserve the same courtesies we give others [especially strangers]. Too often we expect our parents, siblings, etc. to give еще to us than we give to them. There should be mutual respect and understanding within family groups. If Ты don't think Ты are getting it, try giving it. It will probably be returned.
Self-Confidence: Merida
If Ты don't like yourself, if Ты don't feel your actions, habits или appearance can stand competition, или comparison, Ты lack self-confidence. If Ты don't believe in yourself, no one else will. If Ты do believe in yourself, there is almost nothing in life Ты wont be able to do.