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. The bold text is my own add ins to relate the situations to Bella and Edward
Любовь is a tricky emotion. There are some things that feel like Любовь but they are much too superficial to be the real thing. Real Любовь takes time and doesn't happen overnight. Here are three things that people often confuse for love. I don’t personally believe that Любовь can really be defined by anyone, but oh well. People like to try new things.
Lust A.k.a, Twilight
Lust is the feeling that is often mistaken for Любовь at first sight. Lust is an intense and sudden attraction to somebody Ты hardly know. It is mistaken for Любовь because the attraction is so strong. This sounds a lot like Bella and Edward, right?
Lust can feel like Любовь because the feelings of attraction are strong and all-consuming. The emotions stirred up by lust can feel very real but they are based on a fantasy. To Любовь somebody Ты must know them well but many people fall in lust while they are still strangers. What people in lust fall for is a Фэнтези of what might be and reality can get Остаться в живых in the excitement. I admit, this sounds a LOT like Bella, in the beginning
Overwhelmed by physical attraction people in lust can't keep their hands off of each other. They think about each other constantly and talk about one another all the time. Lust is a happy feeling brought on by passionate attraction. If Ты are inexperienced in matters of the сердце it is very easy to mistake all that passion for love. Yes, Bella grabbed Edward a lot. Bella never really talked about Edward with anyone besides Edward. Both of them are inexperienced at matters of the heart
Lust differs from Любовь like night differs from day. Lust happens in the early phase of a relationship when people don’t yet know each other. Lust is based on a fantasy, and the Фэнтези and reality don’t always mesh up. This is where lust runs out of steam.
Although physical attraction is definitely a key ingredient in any romantic relationship, Любовь is еще than just a physical longing. If a relationship is all about physical attraction it is based on lust. Really loving another person takes time and it can't be based on physical attraction alone.
Obsession a.k.a, New Moon
Obsessions are often mistaken for Любовь because people rationalize the crazy feelings they are having. They assume that it must be Любовь if the other person is always on their mind. Obsession is similar to lust but it is much еще misleading and destructive. While lust is often fleeting, fading as two people come to know each other better, obsession sticks around. Before anyone says that Bella and Edward never got to know each other before this stage, please allow me to direct Ты link. You’ll need to scroll a little further than halfway down the page to see Edward asking Bella about every detail of her life as a way to get to know her. This was before Edward сказал(-а) he loved her, but after Bella claimed to be irrevocably in love, unfortunately.
The еще time and effort invested in an unhealthy obsession the еще intense the obsession can become. People in an obsessed state have a one track mind where the other person is concerned and they often lose touch with who they are as an individual. This loss of individuality creates a vicious круг of behavior where the obsessed person grows еще and еще dependent on the other person to bolster their sense of self. This pretty much speaks for itself. Bella running off with strange bikers, reckless cliff diving, etc
Even unrequited love, Любовь that is not returned, can become an overwhelming obsession. When one person believes they are in a relationship that doesn't really exist, или when one person is еще invested in an existing relationship than the other, the foundation for an obsession has been laid. One could argue that Bella was in an unrequited relationship because Edward wasn’t actively present at a certain point
Real Любовь is nurturing and helps people grow but obsession is debilitating. If Ты feel like Ты have Остаться в живых yourself, if Ты are always striving to please your partner without them doing the same for you, and if Ты find yourself making all decisions in your life based on the feelings and needs of the other person Ты could be dealing with obsession. Also, keep in mind the Mormon belief that a partner is pretty much required.
Rebounding A.k.a, Jacob
A rebound is a relationship that starts up very quickly after another relationship has ended. Rebounds are rarely based on Любовь but are really a way of alleviating the loneliness people feel when a relationship ends. Bella uses Jacob as a distraction from her obsessive mentality.
Rebounding can feel like Любовь for the simple reason that the people involved want to be in love. They are used to the security of being in Любовь and еще than anything else they want to feel that security again. They convince themselves that they are in Любовь when they are actually missing the safety and comfort of the relationship they left behind. This explains all the confusing emotions. Bella turned to Jacob for the security. Jacob was misled by her intentions.
If an old relationship keeps interfering with the progress of a new relationship it could mean that the relationship is a rebound. When somebody is on the rebound they are not entirely over their Назад relationship. They may still be trying to work out unresolved issues from that relationship. Rebound relationships may feel like Любовь but they are still impacted by unsettled feelings from the past. Bella never got over Edward. It’s expected to believe that if she had gotten over him, или if Edward had never been in the picture at all, there would have been something еще between Bella and Jacob.
I believe that from this point on, Edward and Bella were indeed in love. Edward, I believe to have been in Любовь earlier on. Bello jumped the gun and confused her lust with love, but it eventually caught up with her and things evened out.
I believe that real Любовь cannot happen without a sense of obsession to keep Ты loyal. Lust is necessary to keep Ты interested, I guess, but I don't find it necessary. I don't see anything wrong with it either.
In conclusion, there's no denying the initial lust. Bella and Edward took the steps usually taken in forming a proper romantic relationship.
I will have еще on this as I continue rereading the series.