Ты don't. Ты have to be able to put your self out there and if there is a spark...... Thats when Ты start to explore your realtionship and know it the person who looks at Ты with Любовь and is willing to tell Ты when your wrong and praise Ты when your right! the one that is always there for Ты and never gives up!!! That what i think anyway!!