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Okay, so I tried getting Совет from my friend, Hadar(DandC4evacute), but she's offline now. So I'm turning to Ты Randoms.

Here's my problem:

My mom and grandma сказал(-а) that they don't think I'm really bi, but I known for a while that I am. At least, some things that I'd never thought about makes sense. Such as, I was kissed on the cheek by a girl before and liked it. Plus I had crushes on tons of boys. My mom thinks its my medical condition that's making me think I'm bisexual, but I know it''s not.

How do I convince them that I'm truly bisexual?
 LeaM-1 posted Больше года
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jester616 said:
Are Ты really concerned about whether your mom and grandma will continue to accept and Любовь Ты if Ты are indeed bi? I'm asking this because that's kind of the sense I'm getting from your explanation.

Your family may initially be in denial, especially as you've mentioned that you've had many crushes on boys. Their reaction could be the dreaded "this is just a phase," или as Ты wrote, a side-effect of whatever your medical condition is.

Are they generally supportive of ЛГБТ people? If they are, that's definitely a plus for you. There's no one sure-fire way to broach this topic, but Ты could bring up that Ты know that your attraction to both boys and girls is genuine, that Ты feel the same rush for an attractive (to you) girl as Ты do for a boy. Do Ты feel comfortable introducing your girlfriend? If Ты think that would be too big of a step right now, then hold off. Take things in stages.

If your family is not supportive, because of religious beliefs, или general discomfort, then, no-brainer, it will be еще difficult. Are Ты able to have discussions about sensitive topics with your family? Do they take your point of view seriously, или do they dismiss your opinion because of your age? If Ты are able to talk with them, this won't be one big discussion, but a series of them in which Ты can respectfully get their point of view and also express yours.

In the best possible case, your family will accept Ты as Ты are. There is no formula to convince them, but keep talking, and good luck.
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roxifoxi1000 said:
O.O......WELL, I DONT ACTUALLY SUPPORT GAY PEOPLE BUT.........WELLLL...JUST WHO CARES IF THEY NEED TO KNOW. SO Ты WERE KISSED BY A GIRL IN THE CHEEK AND U LIKED IT.......WELL JUST LET THEM THING Ты ARE NORMAL, BESIDES, U NEVER HAD A CRUSH ON A GIRL ANYWAY, AND PEOPLE THIS DAYS ENOUGH IS BEING DONE TO SUPPORT GAY PEOPLE :O. SO JUST GO TO THEM AND SAY: "MOM, I THINK AM BI. DONT TAKE IT TO HARSH OKAY? I JUST NEEDED TO TELL U THIS SO IN THE FUTURE U DONT GO MAD" AND IF SHE DONT BELIVE, TEN WHO CARESIS THER PROBLEM. AND TRUST ME, Ты ARE LUCKY AM NOT THE ANTI-GAY CHRISTIAN :O
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Christains aren't anti-gay.
TotalDramaDoll6 posted Больше года
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I'm Christian too, and I have a girlfriend.
LeaM-1 posted Больше года
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She thinks it's my medical condition that's making me say I'm bisexual.
LeaM-1 posted Больше года
egyptprincess7 said:
I'm sorry in advance if I'm not helpful.

But,maybe Ты can Показать them your girlfriend? Tell them that Ты truly Любовь her from the bottom of your heart,it might work.


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posted Больше года 
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Problem. My girlfriend lives in Philedelphia.
LeaM-1 posted Больше года
Keith_R_Harkin said:
Wellll.....


My gf is bi.

Perhaps Ты could introduce them to your gf? and sit down with your Gf, your mom and grandma, and explain your feeelings?
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My gf lives in Philedelphia.
LeaM-1 posted Больше года
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@lea, AHhhhh that might be a problem. Well, get her phone number или skype. или somethin
Keith_R_Harkin posted Больше года
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do it anyway
seffro posted Больше года
Edvine2 said:
Показать them a 1 picture each of a male couple and female couple, then explain how Ты feel about both.
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Okay.
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Panda-Hero said:
I AM IN THE SAME FUCKING SITUATION AFTER I TOLD ME MOM I'M BI SHE DIDN;T BELIEVE ME AND I DON'T KNOW HOW TO CONVINCE HER I AM GBDSFKJDJNNHKLG;'FJK
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Wow.
LeaM-1 posted Больше года
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@Panda, wow, e_e'
Keith_R_Harkin posted Больше года
seffro said:
Look at it this way
Your parents:
care for Ты till around 18
Say they Любовь you
Kiss Ты good night
They try to teach Ты wrong and right
Make Ты strive for your best
They punish you
They discourage unfavorable (to them) behavior

Your potential love:
Cares for Ты from when Ты meet till death (18-60+)
Say the Любовь you
Kiss Ты with tongue goodnight
Teach Ты to be naughty at Главная and nice in public
Do your best and get a reward
Only punishment is make up sex
Encourage all behavior and lets Ты do things they don't like anyways
Did I mention sex?

Which seems better to Ты by comparison?

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 Look at it this way Your parents: care for Ты till around 18 Say they Любовь Ты Kiss Ты good night They try to teach Ты wrong and right Make Ты strive for your best They punish Ты They discourage unfavorable (to them) behavior Your potential love: Cares for Ты from when Ты meet till death (18-60+) Say the Любовь Ты Kiss Ты with tongue goodnight Teach Ты to be naughty at Главная and nice in public Do your best and get a reward Only punishment is make up sex Encourage all behavior and lets Ты do things they don't like anyways Did I mention sex? Which seems better to Ты by comparison?
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I don't quite agree with your theory about your parents... My father would be heart-thorn if I were to die, no matter how old I am. There's noone who loves me еще than my father.
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Nos_DragonFly said:
This video might help Ты with you're cause :p
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Good Luck .
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Bond_Of_Fury said:
If Ты think you're bisexual, then Ты probably are. It's a shame, but there are parents that find it hard to accept that their children are something else than heterosexual. It doesn't have to mean that they're against homosexuality или bisexuality, but it may just need a while to make them get used to it.

What I'd do is to let it rest for a while.

EDIT: Ah, I read through a couple of answers, and I noticed your family is Christian. It's true that Christianinty isn't really anti-homosexual, but it is сказал(-а) in the bible that peolpe should procreate, and that's impossible with people who are homosexual. Sadly, people tend to see bisexuality as homosexuality. It's probably difficult for your mother to accept that you're bi. Try to give it some time.
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