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Suicide

Suicide has always been a taboo subject in many forms, people find it hard to talk about, to approach it или to deal with it, myself included.
I have tried to commit suicide myself a number of time in the past, and now, finding myself facing Друзья and acquaintances dealing with the issue at the present moment find myself tired.
I shy away from dealing with it and find it difficult to give Совет или even to know what to say when they mention it.
Personally i feel angry when they do. They are all adults, and i feel they should be able to deal with these matters themselves, and no matter what i say или what advise/personal feelings i give they don't seem to want to help themselves.
What makes matters worse for me personally is seeing them voice their feelings on social media such as facebook, and to me that is a cry for attention. And it annoys me. Why should Ты threaten suicide just to see messages from people saying "hope ur ok hun" etc yet when i feel like that i feel like i am a heartless cow who doesn't deserve to know them. It's also worrying how it affects my son when i have to drag him to a Друзья house или to mcdonalds because "mummy's friend doesn't feel very well".
Am i in the wrong here? Should i be еще willing to put myself out to help people after countless times of being shat on. или should i be еще reserved?
Personally i feel i should be еще reserved for my own sanity and the safety of the spawn, i don't really want to introduce him to too much of this at such a young age.
But for those who are feeling depressed, suicidal или Остаться в живых in any way there are people Ты can talk to. Friends, parents, spouses, work colleagues and doctors. или even unknown members of the public who give their time voluntarily.
The following are hotlines and online prevention for people who need that little bit of extra help. If Ты feel like this, или need a bit of support или if Ты feel Ты have a few hours a день to spare to help, please use the following:

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BabyBlud posted ·8 месяцев назад
 BabyBlud posted ·8 месяцев назад
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Riku114 said:
Эй, I empathize with Ты a bit on this topic. I don't feel Ты are wrong but I also dont feel Ты are necessarily right either.

Firstly, I would like to say NO one is required to reach out and help people if they don't know how to and if they aren't directly approached. Yes if someone comes up to you, then Ты SHOULD try your best, but also if they start Актёрское искусство entitled to your ear, that too is a problem and Ты should try to establish boundaries.

However, in the sense Ты are mentioning - like the FB posts - that is not really anything anyone is obliged to reply to. If Ты can't handle it, it doesn't matter how much experience you've had with the matter или anything. Ты don't have to share your experience. If Ты can help and Ты genuinely want to help and no one else is coming to their aid, then I would go regardless of if I did или didn't genuinely care since honestly, as people сказал(-а) above, while some MIGHT be for attention, it really might be a genuine final call for help.

It may seem dramatic или like some exotic fancy Показать for attention, but some people are desperate and do need it. Plus, some people are quiet depressive, others are actually very vocal about it. Even if they weren't going to do it but were extremely contemplating it, it is a concern that has to be taken seriously.


With that being сказал(-а) though, I do disagree with necessarily saying adults should be able to handle it themselves. Maybe it is the me that had to take care of my parent's mental health excessively and the amount of shitty adults I've had in my childhood, but adults are humans just like everyone else. Yes, they should be еще mature, but they have issues, stresses, depression, anxiety, and severe mental health issues like any kid или teenager.

Major Depression isn't a mood and emotion that can just be 'handled' или figured out, and Im sure that is something Ты probably understand and know personally. Child, teen, или adult, it is something that needs to be treated with a lot of care, support, and treatment to recover and honestly, I would much rather have adults breaking that illusion that life is easy, safe, and that they have everything together "like adults should" than I would to find out they killed themselves because they wanted to be "adult like".

I believe everyone has a right and shouldn't be judged (in most cases) for trying to reach out for help especially around being suicidal and depressed if they are genuine.
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posted ·8 месяцев назад 
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I personally try to reach out to as many people as I can, but I have spent a lot of time figuring the boundaries between me and others issues and how much I can handle and I had to learn it the hard way. It is always good to reach out and try to help people, but Ты are never obliged to. Your health, Ты sanity, your life, and Ты family should always be a priority before others. If Ты can spare some time, emotional strength, and mental strength to help others, thats wonderful! But if Ты dont have that / can't spare any / don't want to, Ты really dont have to
Riku114 posted ·8 месяцев назад
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TLDR; Ты aren't wrong to not help, but they aren't wrong for reaching out. Also when it comes to Друзья and others, it is good to reach out and if they reach out to you, Ты should be nice, but it is important to have boundaries and respect for both mental states in the party
Riku114 posted ·8 месяцев назад
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BlindBandit92 posted ·8 месяцев назад
Blaze1213IsBack said:
I see where Ты coming from and yeah I have the same issue sometimes on what to say to people when their feeling sad или depressed. I actually have helped some Друзья in the past so are doing a lot better now and some continued to talk about them being depressed a social media so I know it can be hard seeing that. Yes as adults we should a lot еще mature when it comes to posting stuff on social like how Ты mentioned and we should be able to know a least how to deal with emotions of course not everyone personis perfect and we all grow over the years and no your not wrong to think that way. If Ты have a kid Ты wouldn't want them see things like that and sometimes when Ты already did your part in the friendship it's best just not to keep helping cause the person already made the decision not to take your Совет in the end it's there choose either continue Актёрское искусство the same after they gotten advice. I hope this is very helpful and what your looking еще but am glad to hear people are wanting to help those that are in need of help.^^
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Rihanna312 said:
Sometimes people really don't have anyone to lean on during their darkest times, so such posts online are like their last call for help in hopes that someone will care.
The ones who are doing it for attention only usually don't even want to hang out as much but just gain sympathy and Комментарии as a form of approval that people care about them. It's also a form of problem, but not as heavy as when the person just needs somebody to wipe away the dark thoughts, because in that moment they feel like they are truly alone.
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