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Does this make me a bad person?

So I'm getting married in a few months and didn't invite my dad. He wasn't apart of most of my life and as of the last few years he's just been calling every few months to check up on me. He doesn't really do anything other than that. However I am inviting my uncle (his twin) and aunt and obviously my grandparents... I'm kinda just leaving him out. It's a small wedding of 30 people. He knows about the wedding and has never asked for an invitation. I just feel kinda awkward about it.
 kittykazami posted ·9 месяцев назад
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twinklestar11 said:
to me, that would not make Ты a bad person. honestly my dad is no part of my life either. He was in jail all my life and only got out of jail when i was 9 and then a год later got back in jail. so if i ever got married, i would not invite him either. So it would not make u a bad person at all. and good luck getting married
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posted ·9 месяцев назад 
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Thanks
kittykazami posted ·9 месяцев назад
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yw
twinklestar11 posted ·9 месяцев назад
Riku114 said:
Eh the concept of fairly over pushed onto us as children. Sometimes family sucks and sometimes "family" isnt REALLY family. If Ты dont like your father, dont get along with him, или whatever, Ты arent obliged to welcome him in on your special day. Don't feel bad about it.

I really have a... lets just say poor relationship with my father so I get you.
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posted ·9 месяцев назад 
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I guess I just won't. It's just been bothering me since we set a дата but now it's just 2 months away so I guess I'm just thinking about it more.
kittykazami posted ·9 месяцев назад
Angelhugs said:
He still calls so deep inside his сердце he still cares. Even if he doesn't Показать it. It's your wedding. Big day. Let bygones be bygones. Invite him for the sake of your happiness. Ты wouldn't go through the marrage without feeling guilt ,come on he is not an Энджел be a sweetheart life is still good,you nener know he might change to be a better person if not Ты sill his daughter and Ты did your part inviting him even if he didnt Показать up at least he knows Ты care,unless Ты dont give a fuck then ..yep
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posted ·9 месяцев назад 
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See the other part of this is that if he didn't come I would feel terrible and regret asking. I don't know if he would. He would need to fly to get here and he didn't even make it to one of his brothers funerals so I'm not confident he'd show.
kittykazami posted ·9 месяцев назад
TheLefteris24 said:
Whether Ты should invite him или not is entirely up to you. As someone who pretty much shares the same experience with my own Father, I can understand your dilemma. I wouldn't say that there is right или wrong here actually. The matter is pretty subjective. No, this certainly doesn't make Ты a bad person either. If Ты feel like Ты are forcing yourself to approach him, then there's no need for Ты to do that. After all, shouldn't it be HIS responsibility, first and foremost? From the other hand, if Ты see that he is really trying and both of Ты desire for your relationship to improve, then go for it. No need for hesitation. Better attempt now than regretting it later and be left wondering. Whatever Ты decide to do doesn't really affect Ты as a person in my opinion. No need to feel bad over it. Simply go with the choice that feels the most natural to you. Congratulations for your Wedding by the way. This is a день that Ты ought to make the most of it !!!!
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posted ·9 месяцев назад 
Seanthehedgehog said:
Try and send him one anyway. What have Ты got to lose? If he doesn't Показать up, at least Ты tried. If he does Показать up, Ты can at least get sometime to bond together, and improve your relationship.
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posted ·9 месяцев назад 
Zeppie said:
It doesn't make Ты a bad person.

If I were in that situation I would still send an invite to him and then the ball is in his court. He still calls you, he does care. Some people are just so bad with contact, it's no excuse but it does happen.

With Ты inviting his brother and not him, it could hurt him deeply. I would still invite your dad, and then see his response.

Good luck for your big день though :)
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