I'm 16 and my boyfriends 19 and we're about to have sex and it's my 1st time can anyone tell me how it feels since im alittle scared?

bri-marie gives excellent advice. But I just thought I'd add that I looked up Pennsylvania laws for Ты (your Профиль says Ты are in this state). Sixteen is age of consent there, so sex with your boyfriend would be legal. I'm saying this because in some states, it would be considered statutory rape. I'm telling Ты this to reassure Ты that Ты would not be breaking any laws, link.

As the attorney points out in the site linked above, just because it's LEGAL does not mean it's the right choice for you. I'm just cautioning Ты and asking Ты to think about your choice, before Ты do it. I'm not saying don't do it, because it is your life and your choice. I'm just asking Ты to think about if you're ready или not and if you're comfortable with it and doing it for the right reasons.

As bri-marie points out, the first experience is different for everyone. Nine out of ten times, it hurts for girls, at least a little bit. So if it hurts, I just wanted to let Ты know that that is normal, and it's also normal if Ты bleed. It's OK to be nervous and a little scared. It's a scary thing. Which is why it is important to be ready for it. Ты don't want to go too far too fast, before Ты can handle the physical and emotional consequences.

As always, be safe. Use a condom, and probably see a gynecologist beforehand. These doctors are excellent resources for all your sexual health questions, and what Ты talk about is confidential. Ты can also ask for a prescription for birth control from your doctor. If, for whatever reason, Ты can't или won't go to a gynecologist, than try and be as informed as Ты can. Talk to your school counselor или health teacher. These talks remain confidential until the point where your life is threatened. But in these matters, they are contractually bound to respect your privacy.

But what I can't stress enough is be safe. Be sure you'd be willing to deal with the worst case scenario (pregnancy или life-long STD) if your protection for whatever reason fails. Be sure Ты both want the same thing out of this experience, and that your boyfriend is not using Ты just for sex. Or, if he IS just using Ты for sex, is that OK with you.

Each experience is different, so it really depends on the person. For me, it hurt only a little. It was еще uncomfortable than anything (kind of like the first time I put a tampon in). I didn't bleed at all, but I know girls who say they did.

Take your time, don't rush it (both deciding to have sex and actually having sex). Only do it when you're positive you're ready and that Ты both trust each other. I don't only mean trust that he'll stay and that he loves you, also trust that he'll be sensitive to what you're feeling and needing.

Also, be sure that Ты both understand the risks and that Ты both have an idea of what you'll do if something does happen.

Your life is going to be a living hell if Ты choose to have sex now, wait till your in your 20's but for now i'd wait.

Cinders gives some excellent advice.And she is right. Sorry I did not fully read what Cinders had to say.My bad Cinders. I just schemed over her answer and she has giving a lot of other good answers. I сказал(-а) last time Ты have to very aware of your state laws. Yes that is true, but Cinders did say she looked Pennsylvania state laws up online and it turns out having sex with your boyfriend is legal.Although Ты do need to be very aware of your state laws.They can always change. If they did this would be a very good excuse for getting out of having sex with your boyfriend. Living in America a young lady that is under the age of eighteen needs to be very aware of state laws. I am from Texas. I cannot have sex with a guy that is seventeen when I will be turning seventeen in January. If my parents don't sign some papers the guy gets sent to jail. Not some little jail where he just stays there for six months to a year. A hardcore prison with murderers and rapists. Not to say that your boyfriend is a murderer или rapist или anything like that, but Ты need to find out еще about your Pennsylvania state laws. Then he will not feel the need to ask Ты to have sex with him. This is probably the best way to get out of having sex with a guy that Ты don't feel comfortable about having sex with. However, in your state Ты can't really say anything to him about that. If are scared of having sex with him, then don't. It's as simple as that. If he tries to pressure Ты into having sex with him. He's not for you. He is not worth as much as Ты are worth. A guy that truly loves and respects Ты will Любовь and respect what Ты choose to do with your own body. Since Ты are not married to him. Ты don't owe him your body to share with. Your female body is your body, not his. However if Ты do choose to have sex with him Ты should use contraceptives to protect your body from having an unwanted pregnancy или contracting HIV.

your gonna ruin your life if Ты have sex.