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Someone please help me my girl friend is hurting herself.

I met a girl on Fanpop and we started dating, she lives thousands of miles away from me so we chat every day. But now her computer broke and she PMed that she has started cutting herself. She says her mom doesn't care and her dad left years ago. She has now become addicted to it and I am worried. I want to ask my parents for advice, but I can't because if they knew that I have been chatting online they would take this site away no matter what. So I have no idea what to say to her. Also it makes it harder that I have no social skills because of my aspergers and I don't deal with these things well. Please help me, I can't lose her. She means everything to me.
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boy..do i know how u feel....(of most of this besides the cutting part)
Zekrom676 posted Больше года
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but i can still understand the pain well...
Zekrom676 posted Больше года
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oohhhh....even though her computer is broke doesn't she have a wireless internet connection(Wi-Fi) that her iphone could connect to which should make the internet on there perform faster ? (that is if she knows the wep/security key)
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prophet69 said:
HA! HA! Looky here I see an attention whore.
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posted Больше года 
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Um, that's rude. Cutting yourself isn't always a act for attention and it can be very serious. Maybe what this guy is saying is true and he needs advice. So don't be so harsh.
CallMeVictoria posted Больше года
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No. Cutting is not attention whoring. I wasn't talking about cutting. I was talking about this Вопрос that Ты have posted. Ты are cyber dating someone who is on this site and whatever happened between both of you.. then Ты Опубликовано this Вопрос asking for our help. Why should we help and how can we help? Also, how can we tell whether Ты cyber girl friend is telling the truth или not? Why should we ALL give our attention to someone's personal cyber online relation problem? I've seen a lot of people saying online that they have cut themselves или they are going to kill themselves when they obviously don't do that. Most of them are fake and all they want is attention and tries to create a crowded emotional drama.
prophet69 posted Больше года
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@prophet69: if they aren't lying, that was extremly rude and very cruel. If they are, big deal. Just suck it up and leave them alone.
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101trx said:
u should tell her that cutting herslef isn't gonna help her any way ever. she can die from it Ты know? tell her how much Ты Любовь & care for her & if she really cares for Ты back, she would stop. i would seriously advise she gets help & talks to someone. maybe Ты could ask what her problem is & Ты two could sort things out. then maybe, hopefully she'll stop.
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posted Больше года 
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I tried a lot of that and for a день her computer worked and she seemed happy, but then it broke and she PMed me and сказал(-а) she has now started again and has cut herself almost 300 times.
DrBlowhole posted Больше года
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300 TIMES?! maybe she should get a new computer then. because whenever she doesn't talk to you, she becomes depressed& does this. but whenever she CAN talk toyou, she doesn't. Ты see what i'm saying? i see that she misses ya & becomessad over it.
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oh that's nice. :( what kind of mom is she? she's gonna find all those scars on her & wonder whenshe never payedattention in the first place.
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zanhar1 said:
That's very tricky. If I were Ты I'd let her know that everything is alright and that her mother does care. Sometimes when Ты are upset Ты start to think people who care about Ты don't. Let her know that cutting isn't good and suggest an alternative like listening to Музыка или Чтение a book. Let her know that Ты care and that you're there for her.
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Thanks
DrBlowhole posted Больше года
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No problem, good luck
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MarineHolocaust said:
I would tell her that, while it is her choice, there are other ways to go about dealing with your pain. It's not easy if Ты become addicted, but there's ways to stop. Tell her to think about happy times and remind her that Ты Любовь her, that might help. As well, suggest some things to do instead, such as hold an ice cube in her hand или put a rubber band around her wrist and flick it when she feels bad. Though that last option still causes some pain, that itself will help her get over cutting, and cutting is much еще dangerous. I'd suggest more, but I can't think well right now, sorry... What's her username?
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Thank Ты very much.
DrBlowhole posted Больше года
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You're welcome.
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polarwagon15 said:
Then convince her that cutting won't solve anything. Maybe counselling and interventions will help.
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RawrMonster123 said:
Tell her to find a councillor to help her или tell her to let her anger out in some other way. For example, when she gets mad или sad she can draw или write about what happened.
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swampfox31 said:
I understand. I also have aspergers, and it is very hard for me to be social, as well. Ты should tell her that while cutting may provide temporary relief, it won't last forever, and soon she will end up doing it so much that she will injure herself to the point where it won't provide relief anymore, just еще pain. She may even kill herself. Express your concern to her. It doesn't need to be anything super long, it can just be something simple like: "I'd be really sad if something happened to you." Anyway, I don't know how much this helps, but as we probably both know, being social is a HUGE challenge.
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CallMeVictoria said:
I suggest Ты try to work to gain enough money to buy yourself a new computer. Ты have to try somehow. Do anything Ты can. She obviously loves Ты enough to cut her self just because she doesn't talk to Ты enough.
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Dark-Blood said:
im going to be honest here nothing harsh just what i think and what i think u should do...

first off this is *fanpop* no *datepop* no offense but how do u know what the other person is doing while off line? online dating for teens and adults is not безопасно, сейф nor rasional

sec Ты mom сказал(-а) not to be on chats and online on sites like this i believe u should respect ur mom enough to listen to her

third she cant be cutting that much ik i use to have to habit myself and no body can with stand that much trama without going in gto some kind of shock..if shes harming herself just bc her computer broke means shes got seriou emotional trama which will make it harder on the relationship if not medically strightened out (ik i had to take meds myself for that kinda trama)

now if shes doing it for attention then there еще mental and emotional trama then we think или she maybe playing u with it just for attention and pity im not saying its the case but its highly possiable.

NOW my Совет either way tell an adult Показать ur mom the messages and her help dont sit around and say u cant bc u can if u Любовь u and dont want to lose and want her better tell someone who can really help her.
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tinkerbell66799 said:
Tell her that cutting herself is not going to take away the pain. It will only add to the pain. или get a councellor to help. Tell her to try relaxing. When I'm in stress, I just sit quietly and relax. It always works. или maybe listen to music.
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