If Deidara would have been a girl. do Ты think he would be a Избранное among the Акацуки guys?

Sure. It does not matter if he is a guy или a girl. He is liked by all Акацуки members... I think. And he would look great as a female. No doubt. I shall not be surprised if Sasori gets head over heels on him :)
Deidara is a beautiful person both at сердце and from outside.

he isn't any way ..... so...........