I need help...

I have a phobia. It's Virginitaphobia, the fear of getting raped. I have no reason to be scared, because I live in a безопасно, сейф neighborhood, and I would never try to get into a situation like that. I can't stop thinking that some guy who is being nice to me is actually going to rape me. I think it's because of my overactive imagination (and partially how many Книги I read). I'm never comfortable around guys, and I don't even like hugs that much, from ANYBODY, just because I think they're 'feeling me'. Do Ты have any reassurances, ideas on how to get me over this fear, any advice, comforting words, anything to get me over this fear.
Thanks,
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Further explanation: I'm old enough to be raped for it to make a 'difference', yet not really old enough to need self defense classes. And, i'm pretty much withing a few steps of another parent/teacher/adult, because I almost live at my school, for my dad is the vice principal. Again, I don't have many rasons to be scared, with my situation, but I am.
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Jakemulliken said:
I am here for Ты if Ты need to talk about anything. It must be hard for you...but if Ты keep telling yourself that Ты will not be raped then your mind will start to believe it.
Hope that helps so. If not just send me an email and we can talk.
Jake
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Shenel_jasper said:
O honey....u hav got to understand that not all men in this world are monsters....there r some out there who r these trashful guys and will never get anywhere....ok say this line 10 times everyday'I AM STRONG'!Within a month's time i m sure u will get out of this fear!make new Друзья and discuss such matters with them.tell ur mom about this fear....do one thing u can watch FRIENDS(ITS A HIT TV SHOW)all u hav to do is on Fanpop Присоединиться Друзья CLUB and u can watch some good videos...why i m telling u to watch it is bcoz here u will see how the men and the women joke and interact!just one еще thing u hav the right to wear anything u want and if any stranger touches u just dont think and straightaway slap him(keep a spray bottle или a small blade in ur pocket или handbag and use it if anyone tries to harm u.learn some punching tricks from the net...we all r with u!
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u r agreat Фан
friends_4_ever posted Больше года
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Yeah, I mean, allm y guy Друзья are nice to me, and most guys just ignore me (which I'm okay with, actually makes me feel better.). And, at my school, we're not allowed to bring any form of weapon, so that cancels out the knife/spray. And, I practically live at the school, my dad being the vice principal. He's only a few steps away, and I'm still scared. Anyway, thanks for the tips and advice! :)
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jameswilson said:
Ты should look into a local community center and try to take a self defense class. If Ты know how to protect yourself you'll feel еще safe.
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Yeah, but I don't want to let my parents to know (I don't know why, I just don't), and Self-Defense classes would give that away. But thanks for the advice! :) :)
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actualy ive taken a few self defence classes and no one has though anything of it. its nice to kno youve got some kind of backup plan in place and may put your mind at ease.
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alisonfaith297 said:
fears work like this an idea is implanted into your mind and it becomes something ones obssess over. therefore the phrase an irrational fear. but we are human so its perfectly normally. i would say try to focus on other things like think about other things that make Ты happy. i find letting out your feeling about on paper helps. thats one way. for me when i feel fear like snakes, i just go hyper rational. which its just me. i think the Совет above would serve Ты better. Ты could try talking to someone about it. a phobia is not something to really take lightly, it a type of anxiety also anxiety can lead to hyperventilation under stressful situation.
i dont really think i helped Ты much anyways. here Ты go.
GOOD LUCK!
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sehdt said:
Ok there is no point in believing it might never happen after all my brothers fiance thought she would never get attacked but she did. So what Ты need to do is do things that mean there's less chance of it happening for instance never go down alley ways on your own keep to busy places. Get an attack alarm and или pepper spray and get self defence lessons. That way Ты have done all Ты can to minimise the likelihood of it happening. Then Ты can tell yourself Ты don't need to be worried about it and if necessary Ты can then get help with your phobia. Hope this helps
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para-scence said:
I understand. Just think that no one is going to hurt you. If they are,then trust me, you'll know. And if they were going to rape you, they probably wouldn't be nice to you. For the most part, just fake it till Ты make it. Just act like youre comfortable, and then after a while you'll see that the guys arent that bad.
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