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Cinders said:
Before I answer your question, I have a few clarifying ones of my own. First, Ты dated someone Ты don't consider a close friend? Maybe the breakup made Ты feel less friendly towards him, but Ты must have been Друзья at one time. Also, how do Ты know he's depressed? And if he is depressed, Ты don't know if the cause is spiritual или not. If Ты want to help him, be there for him, in a nonjudgmental way. Listen to him еще than Ты talk. "Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger." - James 1:19 As for your Вопрос - Ты cannot make anyone become a Christian, nor should you. In nine out of ten cases, proselytizing will only push people further away from you. All Ты can do is explain why you have faith, from your own perspective. Explain why God and Christ matters so much to you. Share your story, but don't force your choices on him. He may have seriously considered Христианство when Ты dated. He really may have, and decided that it just genuinely was not the spiritual choice for him. That's his decision to make, not yours. If he was lying, and saying he was Christian just to дата you, well, that sucks, but there's nothing Ты can do about it. Except, maybe, ask him if that's what happened. But it sounds to me that by "not giving up" on trying to make him a Christian Ты might have pushed him away. I think your focusing your attention on the wrong goal. Instead of trying to force him into Christianity, treat him like a human being, with his own beliefs and worldviews, even if they are different from yours. Forgive him his flaws, his lying, for example, and Любовь him nevertheless, for who he is. Not who Ты want him to be. If Ты spend your energies trying to turn a person into something he's not, trying to force someone to see the world Ты do, Ты will not only push him away, you'll burn out. Some people just don't want to be Christians. That's their choice, and Ты should respect that. Similarly, they should respect your choice to be Christian. And if he doesn't, if he treats Ты badly, then stop being his friend. Ты can forgive him for that, but Ты don't have to do that at the cost of your own self-esteem.
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