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friends....? what do Ты guys think about this? WARNING!!! Insanely long explaination!!!!!

so, for a while.....okay, i seriously feel like im a backup now. my 'friends' are all distant...and they'll only really talk with me или anything if the person they usually hang out with isnt there. If i do something for them (which i totally didnt have to do) i wont get a thanks или even a glance and they. will. totally. ditch. me..they'll find anything to tease me about, even if its pointless, they'll laugh at my face and walk away. when im trying to say something to them (which rarely happens now..) they'll go "yeah, whatever" and laugh....SERIOUSLY?! No. Nothing can ever be serious with them.
i am not a concieted person. but really, do they really, seriously, deserve my friendship, time, and patience if this is how theyre going to act? Yes, theyve (one in particular) sworn and cursed at me before, but two things they CANT call me is a bad friend, and a judgemental person....its like mean girls..only i REFUSE to be a сука back to them.
im only happy with them 10% of the time. the other 90% i feel like...giving them what they deserve. Another thing that absolutely infuriates me is that when im hanging with them at their houses, theyre normal again. Which makes me think theyre just Актёрское искусство like that at school to seem cool..these are the type of people i would Usually turn my back to, and i dont want to hang out with a bunch of douches...but some of us have been Друзья for over eight years now....
what do i DO?! and sorry for the ridicuously long explaination... And Ты dont have to answer, but im...i just need help with this...its summer now. but what do i do when school starts again :'(


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realy i dont mind long explanations at all. the еще info Ты give about the situation, the easier it is to give good advice.
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skytail127 said:
for one thank Ты for the long explination it realy helps with giveing Ты advice.

secondly, no, they do not deserve your friendship. they treat Ты like crap and even if it is a front for others (which it very well may be) its not what good Друзья do. no Друзья is better then bad friends.

i suggest disolveing the friendship compleatly. they are not worth it. Ты dont have to be mean to them, just ignor them. stop talking to them and hanging out with them. find some new Друзья Далее year.

if Ты realy want to try to preserve the friendship Ты have had for so long, especialy if they didnt always act like this. Ты may want to talk to one of them, like the one Ты are closest to или have been Друзья with the longest. she may not realise how much it hurts you. but if Ты do, make it one on one where the others cant here and be sincere. but if she wont take it seriusly, then leave it.

but in my opinion they arent worth it, theyre just not. i once had a friend like that, and i never realsied how badly she treated me, untill after she was gone and i met my current best friend. anyways, i suggest Ты just Переместить on. that type of people, the 'popular crowd' is rarely the type Ты want to hang out with anyways. most of them are bullys and drama queens. eventualy Ты will find new and better friends. this too shall pass. (btw Болталка not so Болталка question, are Ты an only child?)
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No. I'm 13, and i have a five год old little sis. Were also expecting another baby soon. I think its pointless. Everyone in my class almost totally ignores me besides them. Im not afraid to break it off, and be alone for another год till i get into high school...i have one really good friend who lives Далее door..but this one friend i have...she calls herself my best friend. and sometimes i believe her, cause shes nice and friendly. That all disappears when school starts. as of right now...i dont have anyone to confide in with anything....i just font know about anytthing anymore :(
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HibarixDino said:
Actually this type of thing happened to me as well but i fixed it by going to another group of Друзья and i feel way better now...if they dont give Ты the respect Ты deserve then Ты shouldnt give them any respect...i got left out of the group and when i get depressed they would never ask me why. Its not like they're my only friends. They're just a bunch of people i met on the first день of school. If Ты knew them for eight years then its fine to just leave them if they're not going to support you. Go ahead and look up Друзья in the dictionary and see if they fit the definition :)
Друзья WILL ALWAYS BE THERE 4 YOU!!!
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Actually this type of thing happened to me as well but i fixed it by going to another group of Друзья and i feel way better now...if they dont give Ты the respect Ты deserve then Ты shouldnt give them any respect...i got left out of the group and when i get depressed they would never ask me why. Its not like they're my only friends. They're just a bunch of people i met on the first день of school. If Ты knew them for eight years then its fine to just leave them if they're not going to support you. Go ahead and look up Друзья in the dictionary and see if they fit the definition :) Друзья WILL ALWAYS BE THERE 4 YOU!!!
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dreamfields said:
Well I would have to aggree that if Ты have a chance to make new Друзья do it. If Ты are asked to do something with one of the other group, I would say no. Also, let them know why Ты are turning them down. If they are just using Ты as a stand in, или being mean to you, it's a waste of your time. Ты deserve respect. I think Ты should respect yourself enough to expect it from others. In the short term it may be hard, but in the long term Ты will benefit from taking a stand. Decide that Ты are going to be happy and be good to yourself. Sometimes, the best Друзья are found when you're not looking. Good Luck & God Bless.
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Thanks for your Комментарий :)
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theanimemaster said:
I'm sorry, but if you've been Друзья for a while, Ты need to leave them be weather Ты talked it out или not. Your basically being thier servant. If they whine and beg, don't bother saying yes. They'll jjust do the same things they've been doing. Ты need a new, better group of Друзья that will like Ты for WHO Ты are and TRY to hangvout with you.
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Thanks for answering :)
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chocolate18 said:
they cant really be considered as true friends. but if they did become your Друзья Ты must have seen their good side. it's nice how Ты dont do the same back at them. maybe a better friend perhaps?
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Thanks for your Совет :)
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neofly said:
ok ur story really helps when giving the advice. Ok well u know what i know how u feel i use to have Друзья like that so i txted them and told them to there face i said. Listen guys im tired of being ur backup play toy im not just some one u can pull and push around.I dont need ur abuse i dont have to put up with ur crap. but i do because i thought u guys were my Друзья i thought u actaully apreaciated my friend ship but it turns out i thought wrong and it just keep shooting me in the face. I dont need to be here to stick around with u til the friend u want to hang with is here. Ты can find some one else to deel with ur crap. im tired and done with this. All ive tryd to do is be a good friend and u threw it in my face. Then just stop talking to them if they txt back или come to talk they probably feel bad but dont except any sorry until they say they will start Показ they care. thats what i did i think it could work for this situation as well because ur still being the better person ur not getting revenge или anything ur telling the straightup truth. and if they dont care then forget them find better friends. good lcuk
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thanks for your help :]
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