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Chibi-Baka3 said:
Yeah... Not too fun when someone migrates over to your Друзья instead, eh?
I have that sort of problem, except this guy isn't annoying and he wasn't bothering me; it's my friend's ex, and he won't get away from her. Just being around him makes her feel bad, или maybe I should say "worse" since she has some depression.
All in all, I understand how you're feeling and I go through things like that too.
I can understand that Ты want him to leave your best Друзья be, but I think that's еще of their decision. I say that because of two things: first off, if they don't mind him being around them, then that's fine. Second, when Ты put down "making my Друзья mad at me", it makes me think that they actually enjoy their company. If this is the case, then I don't believe Ты should interfere. If this isn't, I still think that Ты should talk to your Друзья about this little "problem" and see what Ты come up with. This doesn't mean "devise some plan" to ruin his life, embarrass him, etc. I mean actually sit down and talk about it, and then communicate with him and tell him how Ты all feel.
Let's say that your Друзья want to be around this guy. Seeing as Ты don't like him so much, I think that Ты should talk to your Друзья and work something out. For an example, maybe they could hang out with him at a time where you're not around, so that Ты don't feel so annoyed. If this still doesn't work out for you, think to yourself that he's at least not bothering you. And that he's not doing anything mean to your friends.
We'll go for another scenario here for the heck of it: let's say that your Друзья got together and talked about it. Ты all go and talk to this guy, but he still doesn't leave Ты alone. What do Ты do? I would suggest doing the same as Ты did: just ignoring him. I wouldn't suggest anything like "getting even" with him; no one needs to stoop down to any levels. Deal with situations maturely and calmly, and remember to be patient. Let not a single person yell, complain, whine, etc. It sounds like something a parent would say, but it really does make things worse if Ты do so.
Good luck to you, and feel free to ask any other Вопросы that Ты may have.
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