“Are Ты the guy или the girl in the relationship?”

Yes. It feels like they're saying that in a relationship, there should only be one girl and one guy. "It's not a straight relationship, people. We're both girls."

However, I don't really mind people asking who "wears the pants." Yes, it is a bit of a stereotype to assume that there is still one "more masculine" person in the relationship, and sometimes no one really "wears the pants," but at least it's recognizing that there are two people of the same gender in the relationship.

Lol, and why did Ты capitalize "lesbians"? =P

No, that's probably because I just sort of get what they're asking. It's kind of a, 'who's the top, who's the bottom' situation. It just doesn't bother me.

I've never been in a relationship before, but I imagine it would get a little bit annoying.

I find that offencev for sure (im a terrible speller sorry) and dose it matter if there smae sex couples? i think not there dosent need to be a boy and girl all there needs to be is happyness